Coping with a divorce is difficult enough for spouses, but it can be even
more of a challenge for their children who might not be able to grasp
why their parents will no longer live together. It is your job as a parent
to ease their anxieties, fears, and ensure they are able to cope in a
healthy manner with the coming changes.
Once you have gotten past the heavy task of breaking the news to them about
your divorce, the real work will begin. Your children will probably experience
a range of emotions, including anger, disappointment, guilt, and sadness.
You do not have to hover over them, but you should make yourself available
to them and let them know you are always ready to talk.
Tips for Getting Your Children Through the Divorce
A divorce can feel a lot like a period of mourning since, after all, it
is a sort of loss that you are experiencing. It is normal to feel sad
and to wish that this were not happening, but you need to remind them
that it is for the best and that it does not mean you love them any less.
You are both still their parents and will continue to be a family in that sense.
Here are some other tips that will come in handy to help your children cope:
- Tell your children to be honest about their feelings. Kids often fear that
their thoughts and feelings will not be taken seriously by adults, so
let them know that you want to hear what they have to say and that they
will be treated with respect.
- Kids sometimes have a difficult time articulating what they are feeling
and act out instead of talking. If you can read their behavior and actions,
try to help them put it into words.
- Help your kids feel validated. For example, if you know they are feeling
sad, acknowledge it and offer ways to address it. Let them know it is
okay to feel upset about the divorce and that it is also okay to feel
happy about the future.
- Most importantly, be supportive. Your children might not know what to do
to feel better, but you can offer some suggestions, such as a day in the
park or a walk. If your children are very young, offer to let them talk
on the phone to their other parent.
- It is also important to take care of yourself. If you want to be helpful
to your kids, you are going to need to be at your best, so do not neglect
your own needs. Make sure you stay active, maintain a healthy diet, and
spend time with friends who can offer emotional support.
Divorce is an emotionally difficult experience, but your family will be
able to get through it with a little time and effort.
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